My uncle is only 7 years older than I. He came to live with us last year when my grandma died and he enter in deep depression. I can say he's ok now and I was the one who helped him. I had my own interests, I always had fantasies with him and I was able to get close to him and it helped us both. Now he wants to move on and have a place of his own but I'm not sure that's good for our relationship.